A friend posted a Facebook story about Domestic Violence

I read a post last night on Facebook about a girl that was beaten up by her boyfriend yesterday. Her son went to a neighbor for help. The boyfriend was arrested. I was felt so sad for this girl and her son...I have to be honest here and tell you that I cried. I felt so terrible and it brought back a flood of memories because my son was present. I pray people don't use violence against one another. I heard a comment last night...it happens everyday. I know it does, but how do we change that?

I sat on my bed and could not stop the thoughts.. I remember the horror of waking up in the hospital unable to move..a pain through my entire body that was so terrible I thought I was dying. I remember being so scared and the Police officer saying don't move you have neck and head injuries. I prayed to God for the strength to move forward and live through it. I did not want to leave my beautiful children...I was not ready to go. The next day when I had an opportunity to look in the mirror I did not recognize the woman looking back at me in the mirror. My face was black and blue. My face was so swollen I was not sure it was me. I stood for a lonf time trying to see me...trying to recognize the woman I knew I was.
I will never forget the feeling of going home feeling so scared that he was going to walk through the door at any moment.I thought to myself..This man was the lead singer of The Hitmen band in the bay area. Why did he do this? Why did all this happen to me and my family? I no longer ask those questions and the band supported me. I moved immediately with the help of my employer who gave me the money to move.

The reason I bring all this up again is because I made a comment that our laws need to change. My X received a ridiculous sentence! A man hurt a dog and received a much harsh sentence. I don't get it. A woman made a comment and said, "yes, our law need to change, but women need to stop going back over and over again." Well that comment really upset me!!! I did not go back but I do remember the state of mind that I was in. Most people don't have the resources to move right away and I have no faith in the information provided to you that is suppose to help you. People don't call you back, you get voice mail and you are left feeling like your fighting for your life!! SO DON'T JUDGE people unless you walked a day in their shoes!! YOU have no idea how this can change your life! TRUST ME you will never feel safe until you move out of the area to start over. I am still trying to do that. If you don't have the money you are stuck and have to live your life looking over your shoulder EVERYDAY! I don't tell anyone I do this but I do. I still don't feel safe. I do know that I will protect my kids no matter what. So sometimes I feel the system makes women go back..that was my experience. Again, I did not go back and I have not seen him nor do I ever care too.